The Most Important Tool to Make Your Dreams Come True

Ok, so you have something you would like to do.  A dream in the making perhaps and you’d like to be able to say “my dream, or a New Year’s resolutions that got forgotten about a week ago due to lack of will power.

But you are human, and you need something to look forward to.  A sort of vision that pulls you in the direction of something greater than yourself.  Something that gives your life more meaning.

Isn’t that what dreaming bigger is all about anyways?

If you want to become a writer, do what you must to become a writer.

If you want to run a marathon, then do what you must to run a marathon.

If you want to fit into your high school jeans, then do what you must…

But you don’t do it because you get in your own way.

And I am here to tell you to never, ever, let your mind get in the way of making your dreams come true. 

I am all about making my dreams come true–I went to Japan in 2014, I am planning a trip to see Orca whales in their natural environment in September, and I am hoping to publish a book that I’ve written 40k words for in the last two months.   And now that I’ve had the pleasure of reading Paulo Coehlo’s The Alchemist, I feel even more inspired to follow my own Personal Legend.

And quite honestly, I want you to feel the same way.  For that reason, next week I am going to be doing a giveaway of the book The Alchemist, amongst a couple others of my favorite personal development books, so stay on the lookout by signing up to my newsletter below.

Heck, I have been getting up at 6:30 a.m. every weekday to be able to share all of my knowledge and be of service to you.  That is why today I wanted to talk about the most important tool you need to have to make your dreams come true.

How do you make your dreams come true?

Not that long ago I came upon an inevitable truth: Mindset is everything. That truth is actually the tag line to my blog and website:

As Lao Tzu once said: When you correct your mind, your life will fall into place (you should totally tweet this!).

Not only does the right mindset have the ability to provide a foundation for a new and better you, it is also one of the most important tools you can use in achieving your goals and making your dreams come true.

In fact, I’ve come to realize that any problem can be solved when you change the way you think about it.  The problem is that we often times don’t even know that thinking differently about anything is an option.  As a matter of fact, that is why in the past I’ve written about the entrepreneurial mindset and why being an entrepreneur is more about how you think to come up with solutions, rather than it is about starting a business.

And so I found that if you want to make your dreams come true, reach any goal, or even keep your New Year’s resolutions, then you ought to have the right mindset.

I also want you to think of the fact that you can make your dreams come true, reach your goals, or keep your New Year’s resolutions is your sole responsibility in life.  There is no better reason to make your dreams come true than knowing that your personal satisfaction will create ripples of hope amongst anyone that comes into your life.

So, what is this mindset thing and how can this help you make your dreams come true?

What is mindset?

I believe mindset to be the set of instructions that your mind has recorded throughout your psychological development (remember? I am a total Psychology nerd). These instructions I speak of range from “I am not good enough” to “I have what it takes” and direct the way you live your life and how you experience your reality.

Your mindset is the filter through which you experience the world. 

Are you familiar with the phrase “she sees the world through pink-colored lenses”?  That is mindset, and everyone wears their own brand of lenses through which they experience the world informed by past experience.

The only problem with mindset for our purposes? Most of what creates the foundation of your mindset is unconscious to your conscious mind.  I have shared in the past an unconventional formula for success, and wrote about how one of my previous employers would often tell me that you can’t think outside the box if you don’t know what the box looks like.

That box is your mindset.

Why is having the right mindset so important?

You may have already guessed that when your mind is telling you that you are not good enough, then you are most likely not going to try and make your dream come true because you don’t feel worthy of achieving success. On the other hand, you know that if you feel and think that you are capable, then the sky is the limit.

That belief that you are either good or not good enough is part of your mindset.

I want to challenge you to a little experiment:  Make note of 5 successful people that you follow, whether it is an internet entrepreneur, celebrity, or family member. Then observe their behavior through whatever means is possible. Watch their YouTube channel, read their blog posts, or have a conversation with them.

What do you see and hear? Are they hunched over, mumbling, and telling their audience that making your dreams come true is not possible.  Do they ask you, why try? Better to be safe and not risk what’s going well for you.

Or are they telling you to go for it and stay on your game as one of my mentors, Marie Forleo, likes to say?

When you have the right mindset about making your dreams come true or achieving anything at all, you are more likely to be satisfied with your accomplishments, and, I even dare say, reach your goals.

What is the right mindset?

So what is right mindset?

The right mindset is pretty much anything that serves the purpose of what you are trying to accomplish in your life at any given moment in time. I have written much in the past about self-serving thoughts, well, this is exactly what I mean by it.

When the circumstances say nay, your mindset is I am not giving up, I am just starting over.

When your circumstances say nay, your mindset is how can I learn from this so that I can be successful as a result of this failure?

When your circumstances say nay, your mindset is I know I can.

And I don’t know about you, but I’m a MexiCAN, not a MexiCAN’T.

Your mindset will account for 100% of the results you achieve. After all, as Henry Ford once told us, “whether you think you can, or whether you think you can’t, you’re right.”

Your second challenge for today:  ask yourself what thoughts you have around your dream or (long lost?) New Year’s resolution. Do you feel and think that it is impossible to achieve? Or do you think and feel that it is impossible not to achieve?

Which will it be?

In the upcoming weeks I will be writing about how to change your mindset and why having the right mindset is only half the equation in making your dreams come true.



1.  It is your responsibility to make your dreams come true.  It may sound tacky or childish to think of “dreams come true.”  But what else do you live for as a human being?  What gets you out of bed in the morning excited to face the world if not your dreams?

2.  If you want to make your dreams come true you are going to have to support yourself through the process.  That means that you have to think thoughts that are self-serving to your goal or dream.

I will be writing more on the subject to help you move from the “I’m not so sure I can make this happen” mindset, and into a “I can and I will make this happen” mindset.  So sign up for my newsletter so you can receive more tips on being successful, reaching your goals, and living life to the max!



I want to know what you think.  Let me know in the comments what is holding you back from making your dreams come true and what you will do about it!

And as always, thank you for reading!  It is my personal mission to share aaaaaaall that I’ve learned through my studies in Psychology and through my own spiritual journey with you, and as I said above, getting up at 6 a.m. every weekday is all done for you.  So help me reach and help more people by sharing this blog post!



  1. Hey Victoria, what a great post, and even greater attitude. I have been speaking and teaching on the value of a positive attitude for over 40 years! And you are right on! I’m reminded of the quote from William James, “The greatest discovery of my generation is that a human being can alter his life by altering his attitudes of mind.” And you are demonstrating it on a daily, practical basis!

    BTW, here’s a pic you might like, that I used on one of my posts! Have a great day!
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    • Hi Ken,
      Thank you so much for your comment, AND for sharing the quote and the picture. The picture is the absolute best! So priceless haha… I have a dog with a similar mentality.

  2. I totally agree that the right mind set is so very important! It can be the difference between success and failure!
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  3. Attitude is so important. Thanks!

  4. Love this post, and I am a huge fan of the main quote at the top. I have recently been employing the tips in your post, and I HAVE been making my dreams come true, and following through on my goals and plans. I got so much inspiration once I became a mommy almost 2 years ago.. thinking of what I wanted for my daughter I thought, “Why is it too late for ME?!” Anyway, great advice!! Love your page! –
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  5. Hi Victoria,

    Indeed, the most important tool to make your dreams come true is your mindset. I’ve been an entrepreneur for 30 some odd years and know that as a fact!
    When dealing with our mindset, we must not let anything get in our way. I love psychology too and whenever I hit a road block and cannot focus properly because something in the subconscious of mine gets in the way I do face it head on. It is that “critic” in our minds that sometimes block our dreams. I have gotten suck in the past and was so determined to reach a certain goal that I went for EMDR (rapid eye movement) therapy. ( As a psychology can appreciate this. ) I had to do speaking and was full of so much fear, the sessions worked like a charm.

    What happened was I went deep into the subconscious facing the negative and replacing it with a positive. Viola..Easy Peasy! Just had to share that with you.

    So, if anything comes in our way with our mindset there is ALWAYS different ways to deal with it.

    Bravo! Love this post! -Donna
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  6. It’s all about attitude and commitment. I’m realizing now, as a business-owner, that my years manifesting my crazy-happy-fun life in my 20’s can still happen now. And it’ll be even better this time round.
    Great post!
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  7. Hi Victoria! This is my first time on your blog and I love this blog post. It’s all about the mindset. This is the one thing that can make or break you, your business and your dreams. It all starts there. Having the right mindset is extremely important to achieve our goals and dreams. Thanks for sharing such an inspirational article with us.
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  8. I couldn’t agree more with your assessment Victoria!

    A positive mindset without a doubt, is our most important tool. Yet it’s also easily one
    of the most under utilized assets in our entire success development arsenal!

    Go figure. Sadly far too many of us spend more time planning a 14 day vacation, than trying to
    figure out how to maximize our brain power, by directing it to help us solve our
    various challenges.

    But thanks to people such as yourself, we don’t have to as clueless going forward! Thanks!

    It always helps when someone can articulate what we can’t!
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  9. There is the power of will that helps us focus on what we want and clean up the influences of the environment that usually tells us that we can’t. I find that spoiling myself goes a long way.
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  10. Victoria,

    I have often observed people who are confident and discovered that they operate differently from those who doubt themselves, let fear rule them or allow others to discourage them. Confident people focus on their goals and dreams and pull others along into their vision. Others follow willingly because they get caught up in the excitement and the definitive thoughts and actions. Confident people are not bothered by not knowing “how” to do something. They focus on “what” they want to accomplish or create and then they find out how to do it or find a person who can do it for them. When you focus on what you want the solutions find you. The path becomes clear as your take the steps toward your goal. You cannot know how it will all work out until you actually complete your process. So it is your mindset that rules the way. A positive, winning attitude trumps everything else.

    Dr. Erica
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  11. Wow, what a great article you have here Victoria, right mind set plus hard work, you can really make your dreams come true.
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  12. Hey Victoria, so true. Mindset is that single most important tool to make your dreams come true. Even though we know it, we need to work on it every day.
    Sharing this!
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  13. Excellent post Victoria!

    A positive mindset is indeed our most powerful tool!

    I agree with you, it’s our responsibility to make our dreams come true! .. so if my dream is to run a marathon,
    then I have to train rigorously even when I don’t feel like training. If I want my dream to come true then I must
    work hard to make it become a reality.
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  14. Most, over think every situation they face. This has always eluded me.

    We are born with our thoughts and imaginations running wild. That is the way of natural things. Some way down the growth road. Everyone forgets to just let be. Your imagination sparks some amazing desire to explore the unknown. The core purpose of your mind is to expand on thought. Stop overthinking everything.

    You mindset? The first step is to have total willingness to change you perception. That is what you call, mindset. That is the beginning of renewing yourself. You must make the choice to live in solutions and that is in agreement with what you state. I live by this and would challenge anyone to prove it wrong. That is just my perception and a willingness for anyone to allow me to walk them through it.

    Thank you for sharing the importance of knowing. Our willingness to improve or grow is based first on, our voluntary willingness to change our perception on things.
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  15. It’s true, no matter what we’re talking about, it starts with our mindset. Just today I was watching a video where the speaker said people who are happy perform better — at anything they do. It should be a no-brainer, but I know I forget often.
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  16. Hi Victoria. I definitely agree that our mindset plays a role in the actions we take and the kinds of results we achieve. Our mind is such a powerful force. I also think being aware of our mindset and having the ability to change it is much easier when we are well physically. I believe our physical and mental states are intricately tied. One definitely affects the other. So, for me, I find being holistically balanced (i.e., mind, body, and soul) makes it easier to realize my dreams. Everything then “clicks” and falls easily into place. But, of course, striving for balance is always a work in progress. Not necessarily an end result in and of itself.
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  17. Hi, Great post. Developing a good mindset is really essential in making our dreams come true. Thanks for sharing a very helpful and encouraging post.

  18. The key to achieving your dreams is having the proper mindset. I fully nelieve in this!

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